As my son's baseball coaches try to beat into his team's brains - not IF, but WHEN you fail...and you WILL fail.
So, we're all gonna screw up.
But, we do have the ability to limit the mistakes we make. One of those ways is to learn from the mistakes of others. Whether it's an issue of addiction, lying, cheating, stealing, negligence, ignorance, or greed, we can all heed wise counsel from those who have gone before us into those murky waters.
But, do you want to know the sad truth? We rarely look at what has happened to others as a result of their poor choices.
I was listening to a sports talk show a couple years ago. The host was debating with callers about one particular athlete's proclivity toward making bad decision after bad decision. And, the host of the program made an interesting statement. He said, "There are countless examples of other athletes who have made poor choices that he (this athlete) could have learned from. But, the fact is that we only learn from our own mistakes."
Much has been said about Todd Gurley and Jameis Winston these past several days. Every talking head on TV or radio has brought up Johnny Manziel, A.J. Green, Cam Newton, and others who have been in the spotlight, and have made unwise choices. They say things like, "How could Gurley have done this - especially after what happened to Johnny Football last year?"
Simple - he didn't have guardrails in his life, and he drove off the cliff. He decided to take things into his own hands instead of looking for wise counsel. He rationalized, rather than using reason. Reason is the first thing to go out the window when temptation comes calling.
Could Todd Gurley have thought about others who have made the same mistake he was about to make? Sure he could have. All of us have stories of our own failures and miscalculations that we could use to implore others to make better choices. But, ultimately, they have to choose to apply this wisdom, not ignore it.
I find it interesting when I hear people making such harsh remarks about OTHER people who slip, fall, or fail. It's really easy to be the judge when they are up on that high horse. Normally, when I hear judgmental and ultra-critical remarks from someone, I can almost always tell you where it's rooted: pride and an over-abundant sense of self-worth.
Being puffed up with self-pride is in indicator of a lack of humility. You know what kind of person has humility? A broken person. Those who have been broken - and who have admitted that they are broken - are the most joyful, appreciative people in the world.
If you are cynical, critical, and harsh, my bet is that you have never experienced that brokenness. You do have the opportunity to change, and learn from others who may have pushed others away, lost friends and family, or created an attitude of bitterness that hovers over them. Or, you can disregard those examples, and learn the hard way. The choice is yours. But, understand that the fallout of your choices reaches further than you may be able to see in the mirror.